tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post6912998194734584506..comments2024-03-03T07:47:15.889-08:00Comments on Jaclyn Dolamore: What rejections and a ukulele taught me about failurejaclyndolamorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14175862748217333983noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-74891073109438627522020-02-28T04:13:05.625-08:002020-02-28T04:13:05.625-08:00this is brilliant
Satta kingthis is brilliant <br /><a href="https://www.playbazaar.xyz/" rel="nofollow">Satta king</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18239582043558229023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-11493202191440464122010-10-02T11:33:10.498-07:002010-10-02T11:33:10.498-07:00Hmmm... interesting perspective. Yes, you have to ...Hmmm... interesting perspective. Yes, you have to give up alot and fail alot to succeed. Not easy.Christina Farleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03459203755170266842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-22522663497860025962010-10-01T21:48:51.442-07:002010-10-01T21:48:51.442-07:00Katherine:
Yes, she had one quote about how socie...Katherine:<br /><br />Yes, she had one quote about how society talks a lot about success and emphasizes it, but not so much about failure, and it's important to talk about too. I never realized how true that is until the last couple of years. Embracing the possibility or even the actual event of failure is what leads to success.jaclyndolamorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175862748217333983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-2730252749797679542010-10-01T19:25:51.485-07:002010-10-01T19:25:51.485-07:00This is lovely! I too watched the JK Rowling inter...This is lovely! I too watched the JK Rowling interview and I've also been mulling over this whole business of failure. I really liked what she said ... I can't remember the exact quote, but it was something about how if you live your life so carefully that you will NEVER fail, you won't have had a life that was worth living.<br /><br />Learning to fail, learning to suck, learning to accept it about yourself so you can get better--that's part of learning to write.Kate Avery Ellisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16639363051736890588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-12387405046729522712010-10-01T16:43:40.372-07:002010-10-01T16:43:40.372-07:00Chelsea: Interesting, you were kind of the opposit...Chelsea: Interesting, you were kind of the opposite, which I guess makes sense because I was bizarrely focused on success as a kid and I think I've relaxed quite a bit... Also, knitting a cozy for your stuffed velociraptor = awesome. =D<br /><br />Meagan: It's so true... I guess it's one reason a lot of gifted children end up going nowhere in adulthood. For a time I felt paralyzed by the idea of proving myself in the adult world. But it actually feels really good to get over that, even though rejections do still hurt.jaclyndolamorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175862748217333983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-32543421329467105582010-10-01T15:36:11.250-07:002010-10-01T15:36:11.250-07:00This is a great post, and a topic I think about a ...This is a great post, and a topic I think about a lot. As a writer about to start querying for the first time, I spend as much time thinking about failure as I do success, and very much for the same reasons--when you're a (relatively) gifted kid, you get used to getting everything on the first try. I know myself--I tend to give up when I fail. Now, I also know I will never in a thousand years give up writing, but there's that tiny voice of fear still in there, shouting, "Yes, but what if you really AREN'T special?" <br /><br />It's hard to know exactly how I'll react facing rejection. But this post makes me feel better! Thanks. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4873969267913482457.post-8488560649840793222010-10-01T15:35:33.156-07:002010-10-01T15:35:33.156-07:00When I was growing up I used to have lots of inter...When I was growing up I used to have lots of interests, even things I wasn't good at. I always knew I wanted to be a writer, but I also learned to play instruments--even if I never intended to do anything with it or even play for an audience--and I gardened (which I was terrible at for a long time), and I knit (I am pretty decent at knitting, but back in the day all I did was knit stupid crap, like a cozy for my stuffed Velociraptor), and basically lots of other things that I never expected to really "succeed" at or have be important. As I got older and more focused on my writing, those other things I used to do went away. I feel like now it's gotten to the point where I'm *too* focused and can't enjoy anything if I think I'll fail at it or not have anything to show for it, which sucks because it's like I've become a beauty pageant mom to myself or something.<br /><br />A few weeks ago I acquired a hand-me-down violin. I've always kind of wanted to learn the violin, but it was never one of the instruments I tried. But now I can learn, and oh man, the idea of learning to play an instrument again sounds so refreshing. I wouldn't be learning for anyone but me and I don't even intend for other people to hear me play. And the best part is that when I play, the sounds will fade away and there won't *be* anything to judge later. It's very in the moment and the fact that I don't care if I fail at it is so relieving.<br /><br />(And whoa, this ended up being a long comment...)Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05275613250338414310noreply@blogger.com